As the heat of summer slips away and crisp autumn air tickles our noses, trees “know” to begin getting ready for winter. For some tree species, the tree leaves begin to change color and the tree briefly shares its final moments of leafy beauty with us before changing to its stark attire of winter grace. The tree seems to go through its cycles of change with so much ease. Is there not a moment that the leaves scream out…no way, we’re not changing! We’re not ready yet! Do you think the tree mourns the loss of the leaves? What if this happened? Would chaos ensue as trees defiantly defied change or resisted the weather? What inside of them, helps them to “know” it is time to change?
Oh how easy to simply be a tree. To participate in change with ease grace and beauty. To be born, to give and receive easily and to pass with dignity when our days were over. But, I guess that means giving up free will and choice, giving up the full range of experiencing emotions and giving up the joy of actively participating in the creative process of life.
We humans experience change in both our outer and inner worlds. Unfortunately, we don’t participate in the natural cycles of change as graciously and beautifully as do trees. Change occurs outside of us all the time; our kids grow up, the economy makes a sea shift, our skin marks its biological aging process with wrinkles. We are impacted. And, change occurs within us too. When we change inside, we create impact on the world. We are changing and being changed and choosing to change and creating change all the time. Now that is pretty exciting stuff. If we are aware and we have some skills and tools to participate in change, we get to experience the gift of human life through the lense of conciousness and through our own efforts. We are the one living thing that is able to reflect on life and to participate in how it gets created (changed) through choice. Now that is some big fun.
From this perspective (change as big fun!), where are you now in your life..
Do you “know” it is time for change but not quite sure what changes to make?
What has changed or is changing in your outer world?
What natural cycles of life are impacting you?
What changes would you like to create in your life?
What of your inner self would you like to change?
What skills, tools, support and awareness do you need to participate fully in the process of change?
This fall at Keys To Living we’ll be working with the financial areas of life. Focusing on this part of your life can create a positive ripple effect in all areas of you work and life. Our fall class, Financial Vision and Clarity: A Key to an Empowered Life, supports you to fully to step into the process of change, teaching you skills, giving you tools and coaching you to new levels of self-awareness which enable you to create the changes you desire.
To find out more about this and other fall teleclasses visit us at Keys To Living. See you in class!
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FREEDOM: Want some?
Freedom is a core value for many people. Take a moment to think about whether having freedom is important to you or not¦ when was the last time you thought about this, what does freedom mean to you, and do you realize you need to maintain it?
Freedom means something different to everyone. No two people you talk to will have the same personal definition for what gets conjured up in them when they say the word freedom. So if you truly want to honor your value of freedom, start to consider what freedom truly means to you.
Take a quiet moment to reflect on freedom. Pause, close your eyes for a few minutes and move within yourself:
When you imagine experiencing freedom, what are your feelings and what are you thinking about, and what images come to mind?
Once you have a sense of that, find two words to put next to your freedom value that best reflects what freedom specifically means to you.
Examples:
Freedom / Flexibility / Choice
Freedom / Empowered / Self-Expressed
Freedom / Independence / Self“Reliant
Knowing what your freedom means to you is helpful, because when you are specific, you can better honor that value within your own life and communicate what you value to others in your intimate circle – then they will have a better understanding of who you are at the core.
Now comes the piece most leave out. The piece about being responsible, being able to respond to what your freedom is calling for. Think about an area in your life where you feel you have complete freedom. If you allowed that freedom to be unbounded by internal or external accountability, supervision, structure and boundaries, can you imagine how you might end up with the opposite of freedom? You might end up with a disaster on your hands and chaos. You will start to feel oppression in the very area where you had total freedom. Where there was joy, you might feel darkness, burden or limitation.
Being responsible for your freedom and freedom of others (however big you want to make your circle) can be a fulfilling and joyous activity. When you tap into your own maturity, you realize that you need to monitor, and put the appropriate structure and boundaries in place to keep the freedom flowing while allowing the freedom to be enjoyed. Accountability, supervision, monitoring, structure, boundaries and respect are some of the foundational elements to maintaining and creating greater freedom.
Where do you feel freedom in your life?
Your relationships?
Your finances?
Your ability to educate and nurture yourself and/or others?
Your physical health and ability?
Your ability to have fun and recreate?
Your spirituality?
Notice where you are being vigilant, discerning, and careful, making responsible choices along the way, and notice where you might be on the edge of recklessness, taking inappropriate risks, and creating messes you have no idea how to clean up.
This is a wonderful time to look within to what freedom means to you, where in your life do you enjoy freedom and where do you feel lack of freedom? Then ask yourself: Am I being responsible in the area where I do have freedom? Is there anyplace I might be a bit more careful, vigilant, diligent? Finally, look to the places where you feel lack of freedom at this time. Ask yourself, how am I not responding to the situation as it is, how can I take a small step towards responsibility in this area of my life now?
Finally, from Eleanor Roosevelt:
“Freedom makes a huge requirement of every human being. With freedom comes responsibility. For the person who is unwilling to grow up, the person who does not want to carry his own weight, this is a frightening prospect.”
To Your FREEDOM!
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Maria Cristini coaches small business owners, creative professionals, and executives to clarify and prioritize what they want for themselves in all aspects of their life. This clarity empowers her clients to create the future they want for themselves personally and for their businesses, both of which become an extension of their optimal self-expression. To learn more about her products and services, visit KeysToLiving.com and/or mariacristini.com